Protecting Yourself From Destiny Swapping

Hello, my beautiful people! I’m Em Gem, welcome back to my blog, Food Facts and Fitness, your guide to healthier living through exploring topics that help us heal our mind, body, and spirit. Today we’re exploring the topic of Destiny Swapping. I’ve noticed this being a growing discussion so let’s get into what it is and how you can stop it on its track when you notice that it’s happening to you.

Destiny swapping is the concept of someone taking over or benefiting from another person’s life path, success, or blessings, often through manipulation or spiritual means. It can happen through someone imitating your actions or life. Some people believe imitation is flattery, but in some cases, it can literally be that someone is trying to essentially be you. This can happen through subtle means, and it often happens with those we consider ourselves to be close to. For example, I once had a friend that was trying desperately to swap destiny with me. It initially took me a while to notice the signs because I didn’t want to believe that someone I considered close to me was capable of that, but then the signs became unavoidable. This person began to imitate my own life. I had a specific gym routine, and they began to copy it. They noticed I did my make-up a certain way and the next day they would also have it done like that. It was down to the tiniest details, I really began to realize their cheap attempts to mimic me when they started to take on my personality traits in even more subtle ways. They hung around my family and saw a specific trait within me and began to imitate it. They noticed my infatuation with PB&J’s. I’d always order them when we would get coffee together, and suddenly they also had an obsession with pb&j’s.

If I expressed a thought or idea, days later this person would try to pass it off as their own. It eventually got to a point that when I started attracting more opportunities into my life, this person could no longer contain their envy and the destiny swap attempt became something I could no longer ignore.  As things continued to improve in my life, this person grew more resentful of me. This was around a time in which I started to go to more casting and modeling gigs and this person I considered a friend at the time, just couldn’t contain their jealousy anymore. The remarks grew so intense they felt like straight jabs to the gut. They began to exploit any opportunity they could find to argue or make me the villain. I had to remove this person from my life because they kept trying to get me out of character. People that try to swap destiny with you will do this to try and trick you out of your spot. They vibrate on such a low frequency that eliciting a reaction from you thrills them, it gives them a sense of control. This is exactly what this person was doing when I chose to be connected to them. When you see someone constantly trying to get you out of character, remove them from your vicinity, trust. You don’t want any energy vampires or Destiny Swappers around you.

Destiny swap attempts can also happen through spiritual means where people will perform rituals or energy manipulation like brujeria or black magic in a cheap attempt to basically become you. This sounds crazy because it is, but there are unhinged people out there that will try it, so it’s important to protect yourself. A person trying to destiny swap with you will try to get close to you to distract you from your goals and slowly try to basically become you. They can do this in a multitude of ways. Through trying to deter you from taking actions toward your goals, sabotaging your opportunities or connections, or sending you evil eye. When you spot the signs that someone in your life may be trying to swap destiny’s with you, get this person far, far away from you. 

There are always signs because people can never hide their weird energy for too long. Look for the red flags. They’re usually loud and blatant. You will most likely experience things like stagnation, rejection, or feeling disconnected from your purpose. While you experience this, you might even notice that the destiny swapper is imitating your routine so they’ll start copying the way that you work out, the way that you dress, the slang that you use. Again, in my case, there was a snake in my life that attempted to imitate any little personality trait they observed within me and tried to pass it off as their own. Know what I did? I peeped it and removed that snake from my garden.

These are some other signs to look out for when someone is attempting to swap destiny’s with you. First off, you’re going to feel drained. They seem to have more energy than usual, while interacting with them leaves you feeling depleted. A lot of the time, these people will also be energy vampires in our lives. Someone who expects you to take on their burdens, their anger, their dissatisfaction with life. An individual that feels entitled to your energy but does not reciprocate your efforts. Someone who essentially expects you to pour into them but doesn’t pour back into you. Most often not, someone trying to swap destiny with you is also an energy vampire. Interactions with them always leave you feeling defeated, depleted, or just plain old drained. Destiny swappers and energy vampires tend to be people that don’t acknowledge their insecurities or traumas because they don’t have the courage to face themselves enough to actually do shadow work. Instead of choosing to heal, they think they can take shortcuts by mimicking your energy. These people will perform deep manipulation to convince people that they are you because they themselves lack authenticity and originality. 

When you exude light, and you’re confident about yourself, this can cause you to attract people who want to swap destiny’s with you. This is obviously due to envy, because the destiny swapper wants to be you. They want what you have, and they will try to get it through attempting to cheaply imitate your energy. Which is laughable, because in order to become the person you are today, you had to go through a set of experiences that you gained lessons from. No one can copy or steal from you because everything that you have attained up to this point was contingent upon the price paid through those sets of experiences you had to endure. It would be impossible to extract the same level of value, your aura if you will, through a cheap, pathetic attempt at imitation, but still they’ll try, which is why you need to always protect your energy. Unfortunately, destiny swappers tend to be the people closest to us. If they aren’t in your close circle, they’ll try to be. These are typically the type of people with a “keep your friends close and your enemies closer” type of mindset. 

There have been people in the past that have attempted to swap destiny’s with people they’re envious of. Take Selena and Yolanda for example – a failed attempt. People will try it because they allow the devil and those lower vibrational energies to convince them that they can be successful, and this is why – in my opinion, it’s important to stay prayed up. The blessings that God has for you no one can take no matter how hard they try. This is why it’s important to foster a connection with God. I would like to mention that I’m not talking about people who claim to be righteous, but then go pay for witchcraft or move with a lack of integrity. If you’re someone who moves with God, you have morals and don’t do underhanded stuff. No slander, gossiping, trying to project onto people because you feel less than. You move with integrity. So, aside from fostering a connection with God, you can also reclaim your power from the person trying to swap destiny with you, by setting boundaries and moving with integrity.

You need to remove anyone posing red flags, away from your life. Set boundaries with people going forward, because if it happens once, it will happen again. As I previously stated, when you have that light about you, you tend to attract energy vampires like moths to a flame, so it’s important to practice discernment and always move with self-respect. If you’re over extending yourself for someone, they gotta go! Recognize your boundaries so you can enforce them, because that’s protection within itself. 

Reclaiming your destiny involves recognizing the issue, setting boundaries, and taking steps to realign with your authentic self through taking care of your physical body. Nurturing the physical body can be done through healthy eating and getting movement. It’s not only limited to that though, because you need to take care of your mind just as much as your physical. Implementing practice’s like prayer, meditation, and personal empowerment can all be beneficial. All of these things can protect you from any weirdos trying to siphon your energy and pass it off as their own. The following methods could also be used to protect yourself from anyone trying to profit off your energy and swap destiny’s with you.

Recognize the red flags and walk away. If you see that someone is jealous of you, do your future self a favor and remove that snake from your garden. When you allow someone into your life that has shown you this red flag, it will only lead to the person developing more discontentment and envy towards you due to their own untamed insecurities. Some red flags can include: Imitation – This is when someone begins to dress like you, copies your ideas and passes it off as their own. When they monitor your progress but never show support, or when they go as far as to sabotage your progress.

Re-focusing your energy on you: out of sight, out of mind, or so the saying goes. Cut the energetic cord tying you together. If you were close to this person, do a cord cutting. You don’t need any materials, simply close your eyes and envision a cord tying you to this person, grab a pair of scissors and sever that cord like you did your connection with that person. If the person keeps popping up in your mind, get to the root of why and acknowledge your emotions. Then shift out of this energy by pouring into yourself and only giving attention to what you want to see grow in your life, because where focus goes, energy flows. Spend some time with yourself in order to cultivate a deeper bond with yourself. Participate in activities that keeps you on a high vibration. I also recommend taking the time to do shadow work and create a routine that helps you stay devoted to healing.

Put effort into improving your gut health. After all,  90% of serotonin is produced in the gut. The gut is considered the second brain. In eating nutrient-rich foods you’re helping improve your focus and mood. Aside from eating healthy meals, make sure you’re getting enough to eat, because if you’re not eating enough you can go into ketosis, which offsets survival mode in your body. Obviously when you’re in survival mode, you don’t show up as your best self, so make sure you’re prioritizing your health. Eat nutritious foods that give you energy. Try implementing fermented foods to your eating regimen. Consult your doctor about adding vitamins or supplements that can help your body, and heal your gut.

Moving the body helps release stagnant energy, so make sure you’re doing it on a consistent basis. Energy gets stored in the body; getting in movement will help you release that energy and move you away from stagnation. Use any emotions you feel to your advantage and put them into your workout. Feel angry? Hit a punching bag a couple of times or use that energy for something that will positively contribute to your physical well-being. Releasing any stagnant energy stored in your body helps you move forward mentally, physically, and spiritually. Go for a walk around your neighborhood, do anything that gets your body moving!

Sleep is super important! This goes without saying, some people think it’s debatable, but it’s absolutely not! Getting enough sleep is essential to your well-being. Lack of sleep messes with your focus. You need to make sure you’re getting proper sleep consistently. Otherwise, you’ll always feel tired and depleted. You won’t be able to show up with as much energy. Make sure you’re getting 8 hours of sleep, this is a non-negotiable! Practice saying no to anything that interferes with your sleep schedule. If you don’t already have a bedtime routine, try creating one and sticking to it, this helps our sleep cycle improve drastically. You can also try doing binaural beats to help drift you into sleep.

Taking care of your physical body is really important in order to prevent or stop destiny swapping from happening. A lot of the time, the destiny swapper will try to use root work magic against you. This affects your habits and your ability to remain grounded and healthy. This is your first chakra, which is your root chakra, so when you heal the root chakra, it becomes even more difficult for the destiny swapper to take your destiny from you. I highly recommend implementing systems that help your chakras to remain balanced. Practice meditation for 10 minutes a day. This helps us detach from our ego which can help us view circumstances from a different perspective. We don’t realize how much limitations we place within the bounds of our minds through our way of thinking alone. Meditation offers you a different perspective which can help you move forward.

Last thing I would recommend is getting rid of any belongings tying you to this person. I say this especially because if they are using brujería, or black magic, they could have attached an energetic cord to those items. Yeah, throw them away, sell them, donate them, it doesn’t matter, just don’t keep it in your energy field.

Remain in your authenticity. When someone is trying to swap destiny’s with you, they’re an insecure person who doesn’t know themselves. This is why they try to imitate someone else. Keep being authentic with who you are, because authenticity will always shine through. Once you remove this person from your energy, they can no longer siphon from you. Always stay rooted in who you are. Remember diva, no one can steal your energy or destiny, unless you allow them to. Foster an intimate connection with yourself by introspecting. Honor yourself by aligning your actions with your values, and always remain rooted in your convictions!

An energy vampire or a destiny swappers desire to siphon from you is always going to be prevalent if you have that light about you, but their success is contingent upon you not showing up for yourself, so love yourself like your life depends on it. Hopefully, now you have a better understanding of Destiny Swapping and how you can stop it at it’s track, when you notice that it’s happening to you. Remember that what God blesses no man can curse, so keep showing up for yourself and keep showing out. Authenticity always wins. If you enjoyed this blog then make sure to check out Part Two where I give a practical example of Destiny Swapping through the movie Bring It On: All or Nothing. Thank you guys for tuning into my blog, don’t forget to stream my video on YouTube. Till next time!