A Guide To Being Unbothered
Being triggered is a normal part of life. We’re all humans, and we all have emotions, and among those emotions are anger and sometimes a little bit of rage. It’s only human, and as we mature and as we grow into adults, we come to realize that we have to build some sort of emotional resilience and maturity. Otherwise, we’re just going to lash out emotionally towards anything that may happen in our lives, and that’s not healthy, and it’s especially not healthy when you’re trying to maintain healthy connections in your life. This is why I felt inspired to write this blog. I’ve had my fair share of experiences with people that have tried to purposely trigger me and get me into that low vibrational rage and anger-filled state, and unfortunately for me, a lot of these people that have intentionally tried to trigger me have indeed been successful. Fortunately for me though, I turn all of my experiences into lessons, and I’ve grown a lot from these experiences, and I now know how to implement these emotional resilience skills towards helping me cultivate stronger connections in life and just do better overall. I’m going to share a couple of tips on how you can build emotional resilience so that you can be unbothered when someone tries to trigger you. I’ll be delving into how you can also release this energy from your body so it doesn’t remain stagnant and turns you bitter. The key isn’t to suppress; the key is to better regulate so that you don’t react in an emotional outburst every time that you’re triggered.
Meditation and Breath-work
I’ve noticed that the foundation for a calm state is meditation and breath-work. This has really helped me personally, to take a pause before I react when I’m triggered. Which doesn’t come as a surprise given that there’s been so many studies that attest to meditation and breathwork being super good for reducing stress levels and increasing concentration levels. Start practicing meditation every day for at least 10 minutes, and you’ll gradually start to notice the positive impact it has. Create a routine of practicing meditation in the morning and at night. I find I’m more mindful throughout the day and sleep better at night when I practice meditation. Meditation allows your brain to pause, so what’s going to happen is that when someone tries to trigger you or get an emotional reaction out of you, it’s not going to be as effective in causing an emotional outburst out of you, and the reason for this is because meditation trains your mind to take that pause before you react. It essentially trains your brain to be more mindful.
Positive Self Image
Forging a positive self-image is also really important to have, especially if you want to remain unbothered when someone tries to trigger you. This is because when someone tries to get a rise out of you or trigger you, you’re going to value your time more because you know your self-worth. You’re not going to be feeling insecure every time someone tries to trigger you. It’s easier to walk away from that interaction because you know that it’s only going to drain you and it’s not going to add to your life. This is why it’s important to have a positive self-image. To talk kindly to yourself. Because when someone tries to trigger you, you’ll have discernment and know that’s toxic and not worth your time because you have a positive self-image. Like buy-bye negative vibes!
Healthy Hobbies: Getting In Movement
I cannot stress enough how absolutely necessary it is to have a healthy habit that you can pour your emotions into, a healthy hobby. Brownie points if it’s something that keeps you active, it doesn’t have to be, though. It’s a normal part of life to feel anger and frustration and maybe a tiny bit of rage, but that doesn’t mean that we have to have an emotional outburst every time we feel this. We can feel our emotions and process them without reacting in a toxic way. Feelings are inevitable; however, what you can do is create a healthy outlet for yourself to express those emotions. A healthy hobby, if you will. For me, it’s working out. I absolutely love it; I’m addicted to working out. It makes me feel so good. When someone tries to trigger me or tries to get me angry, what I do is use that energy to fuel me at the gym. Have you ever tried working out when you’re angry? It really fuels your workout and allows you to go that extra mile. So what I’m doing is transmuting this energy and using it to my advantage. The key is to not store and suppress all the emotions within your body. The key is to have a healthy hobby that allows you to release those emotions from within your body so you don’t harbor that within you. Because the thing is that sometimes when you don’t express when you’re emotionally triggered, it can result in the energy being stored in your body, and that is not good. So when you immerse yourself in a healthy hobby, you allow yourself expression to release all of that energy. A lot of people put up a façade but aren’t actually practicing emotional discipline, but what’s the point if all that negative energy is going to remain in your body? The point is developing emotional resilience and practicing emotional discipline in order to not have an emotional outburst or react when someone tries to trigger you, but you still have to find healthy outlets that help you release that energy from your body; otherwise, you’re storing all that energy.
So going back to this, it can be any sort of healthy hobby. For me, it’s working out. I like hitting punching bags; I like running. I also have friends who rent out rage rooms, and they like to break stuff, and I’ve heard it can be pretty fun as well, so it really comes down to you.
Observe and Introspect
Learn how to observe and introspect. This is essential because when I tell you misery loves company, I am not joking! A lot of people are unhappy with their lives; they’re unhappy with themselves, so they like to project a lot of that unhappiness and toxicity onto other people. If you’re someone who’s typically upbeat and expressive, you might experience this more heavily because a lot of unhappy people will recognize that within you and feel the lack within themselves, so they’ll try to trigger you so you can feel how they feel, and then they could feel better about themselves. And let me just tell you, the more that people try to get a rise out of you and fail, the more frustrated they’ll become. This is because a lot of people get their ego stroked by influencing emotional reactions out of other people, so when they see that they can’t puppeteer you, they feel a loss of control or power. This is why I feel like observing and introspecting are really beneficial in helping you not be triggered. When you observe whoever’s trying to trigger you and you introspect on the matter, you usually find that they’re doing it out of jealousy, and the only way they can feel better is by making you feel low. I don’t know about you, but I feel bad for anyone that’s dealing with that mental battle. When you forge that deeper connection as to why someone may be behaving the way that they are behaving, it helps you empathize more with the individual and allows you to move through any hatred you have. It’s hard to hate what you understand on a deeper level and when you cultivate an understanding, that allows you to forgive and move through this energy with more ease so that you’re not easily triggered. Let’s be real. I know this isn’t the easiest thing to do, especially when someone is going out of their way to be mean to you, but I think it’s important to forge an understanding because it’ll help you take your power back. This is all about taking your power back.
Hooponopono
My final tip, just like all the other tips I gave you, is absolutely optional. Okay, so I’ve really been into the Hawaiian prayer, Hooponopono. This is practiced to foster forgiveness and healing by taking total responsibility. I think this is a beautiful prayer to implement to build emotional resilience because a huge part of taking your power back is taking responsibility. When you take responsibility, you take your power back. When you’re in your power, it’s not as easy to give into emotional outbursts, so this in turn helps you not be triggered. The prayer goes like this:
I’m sorry
Please forgive me
Thank you
I love you
The reason I think this is a good method to incorporate when you’re trying not to be triggered by someone is because you give someone a sense of your power when you give them your emotional reactions because your energy is your currency, your energy is your power. When you put out into the universe, “I love you,” you’re restoring equilibrium. This is really not an easy task, especially when someone has tried to get us angry, but this is more for you than for them. You’re releasing the energy from your body so that you’re not stagnant. Of course you can do this prayer with just yourself. I recommend doing it daily, especially after a meditation session. What this is doing is bringing your power back to you. You’re focusing on nurturing yourself, and that’s power.
Not reacting in emotional outbursts and not being triggered all come down to your self-worth and how much power you’re willing to let other people have over you. Nurture yourself, love yourself, and practice these tips to build emotional resilience and discipline. Thank you for asking the time to read my blog bestie <33.
